‘Basic politeness is a luxury’: US returnee’s viral post reignites India’s civic sense debate

Participation was published by Reddit from a deplorable American return on the daily rudeness it faced in India, which led to a wave of emotional responses from their colleagues. The original publication, titled “The General InDeness in India, was shared by my nerves, by a user who recently returned to India after more than a decade in the United States.

After moving to the National Capital (NCR) area three months ago, the user detailed his struggles with the reset of life in India – especially with what they described as a “deeply rooted” culture of non -professional and uncontrolled behavior.

Quoting the accidents in the reputable Delhi clinic and the Adhaar Center, they pointed out how the chicks were extended only after administrative intervention. Even a neighbors asked about a security camera that appeared as “aggressive”, with a highlight of what the user called a broader problem with the tone and the situation.

“I grew up in small cities throughout India and people were more polite and friendly there,” I read the post. “The United States may have made me soft – or maybe you have taught me that basic politeness should not be luxury.”

Although habits that are still practiced in the United States-such as saying “Thank you” or “Hello”-the user participated in how to face these gestures often with empty successes, leaving them to re-learn how to “grow thicker skin”.

The post hit a tendon with many online, and got hundreds of responses from both Indians and diaspora.

One of the commentators participated in a similar awakening: “Throughout my life, I did not understand what people mean when they said that the Indians lack the civil meaning. But after a year in the United States, I saw the contrast sharply – especially on flights at the homeland, where the passenger colleagues became lines and a piece, and they entered into vain.”

Another user linked the problem to the broader social and economic factors: “Life is not easy for most Indians-low wages, long hours, and family pressures forms how people interact. If we are lucky enough to lead a peaceful life, all we can do is try to spread that energy.”

Others are reflected in the behavioral transformation required to work in India. “During my two-month visit, I found that unless she was firm-or even rude-people benefit from you. It is a harsh fact. I could not live in a society I had to fight for basic services every day,” one of them wrote.

While this post highlights the inconsistency that many face after his return to India, it also emphasizes a deeper conversation about sympathy, civil responsibility and the emotional cost of urban life in the country.